New book by Converse woman chronicles her family’s struggles

“My children, our two oldest, came to us after being in five different foster homes. No child should be shuffled between five families during their lifetime, let alone five before your fifth birthday.”

“My son (Cruz), the first day he came to us, he looked at my husband and said, ‘So, how long am I going to be here?’ Silvas said. “That, from a 4-year-old. How long am I going to be here; how long before these two people reject me, too?”

The “sweet spot” for RAD is between birth and up to age 3. “During that time, it’s very important for a child to really form an attachment, a bond, with their parent, their caregiver,” Silvas said. “My children, our two oldest, came to us after being in five different foster homes. No child should be shuffled between five families during their lifetime, let alone five before your fifth birthday.”

Kids who are in the foster care system are not there because of anything they have done, Silvas said. “They think it’s them, it’s not. That’s what RAD convinces them; they think everyone else has thrown them away because they are useless, so why should I want to be with these people?”